would this be completely wrong

I have a friend who is with a bf and I just feel (well,I think I know) that he is wrong for her.He has made her unhappy so many times before.She was happy with the guy she wanted me to find for her,then all of a sudden she tells me she is back with this other guy who was making her so unhappy before.Who by the way,was a total jerk.Now she says that that he is making her sooo happy and the guy she was with (who she had me find) was getting on her nerves.It is so frustrating for me because we have gone and got her several times and every time she gets hurt progressively worse.
I just want to do a spell to make her get over this jerk and move on.Something tells me it would be wrong but,I am always anxious so,I don't know.Would it be wrong of me to do?

I beleive that there are times when things have to be left the way they are, as she might need to learn something from this, in her life, that is greater than we can understand..It is her life journey . She will have to be the one deciding , when enough is enough and take charge. Maybe, this is a re-take of something she did not learn the first time or times, she was involved with him...

It is hard when you want to protect someone, but at times if you get too involved and stop the flow of things, of what might need to be . You could actually hinder what she needs to learn or prolong the process.
You can still be there for her as a sounding board and be supportive when she wants it, but letting her the freedom to choose and make her own choises, that can at times be the greatest gift a friend can give.

You say it somehow feels wrong, to do a spell in this situation, trust your instinct. It's telling you something...:)

Although your intentions are good and sincere, you must accept her choice.Like it has been written allready, it is her path, her lesson that she must learn and take wisdom from. If you do this, you might kick her of from her learning part, thus negating her the expirience she needs. The matters with love, I say, are best to be taken care of with words in cases like these. Instead of a spell, keep giving her your advice, if she is getting hurt and not see it, be a friend thats there and try to open her eyes. In my opinion, doing a spell here would be wrong, unless she would to ask you to do it by herself, tho in that case also I wouldnt do the spell again.

Okay,thanks everyone.I will just leave it be and hope for the best.

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Originally Posted by Isabeau

i have to agree with Soddex, and it is not good to play around with matters of the heart or the natural laws.

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So WTF is magick for?


In answer to the question though, I would not focus so much energy on your friends personal choices and issues. And as they say, you cannot heal others until you heal yourself.

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Originally Posted by Apple

So WTF is magick for?


In answer to the question though, I would not focus so much energy on your friends personal choices and issues. And as they say, you cannot heal others until you heal yourself.

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For bettering of oneself, etc.., if I've understood it correctly...and yes one can not help others, other than if they want your specific help , in which case, you can really only show them the door, but ultimately they have to walk through it themselves...

Still can we please find a way to give an opinion forcefully without using wording, that disrespects the site...

is wtf really that offensive?

Besides it was an innocent question. When someone states that when using magickyou shouldnt break a "natural law" I naturally wonder what they mean.
I wasnt trying to disrespect the site.